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Monday, August 27, 2012

Struggling

Dropped my daughter off at college on Wednesday.
(While driving home on Thursday I was thinking that
childbirth without an epidural was easier)
 
So phsyched for her, such a great, great school.
She is feeling lonely, awkward and frustrated.
My heart has a hole in it.
 
Her roommate is a local, I thought GREAT!
She left on Saturday afternoon to go home, wasn't
back by 7:00 pm last night when I talked to
my daughter. My heart goes out to my daughter,
she wanted to have someone to hang with, someone to
go and eat with, to walk around with.......
 
Struggling here.
I know that she will figure it out, but WOW,
is this hard on my end! :)
 
Any of you mom's out there who have been through this
have any advise, I would love it!
(apart from don't wear eye makeup and carry a tissue
for awhile)
 
Thanks!


8 comments:

Jenni said...

oh Courtney..so sorry to hear this is a struggle for you both. I'm sure things will be different in a few weeks when she has made friends...clubs etc are a good idea.. anything she is particularly interested in? That first separation is such a heartbreak... but it will be good in the long run. Does she/you skype etc? From your end, I would say "keep busy!" and will she be back holidays etc.. something to keep in mind. Hugs, jenni

Kokopelli said...

I'm not a mom, but I am a daughter and had to leave my mom one day. I felt so lonely the first days. I knew it was hard for her, too, although she never showed. It got better in the days and weeks after. But the most important thing for me was, that there ALWAYS was a place that I could (and still can today) come back to if something goes wrong or not the way I planned. And you should be this place for your daughter. Hope this helps a bit.

Loris Glassworks said...

Okay, so the first weekend was a little lonely, I know she will make new firends in no time at all. I hung out with my first college roomate for about a minute, we didn't have a lot in commom. I'm a very shy person, but I did meet many new girlfriends in my classes, doing volunteer work, and hanging out in the cmapus coffe house. By the end of the first month of school I had a solid group of core friends. I also made lifetime friends when I joined a sorority my Sophomore year. I know sorority life is not for everyone, but for me it was a way to feel like I belonged to a loving 'family' that had the same ups and downs and challenges; always someone to do things with. Don't worry, she will find happiness and merge into life on campus. Give her a little time to strech her wings.

Lori In Atlanta

Brenda Sigafoos said...

Tell her to hold her head high walk proud don't let anyone Make you feel that way. Be proud of herself and show it. others can feel insecurity and they can be cruel tell her this is her dream her life, and when others see a strong individual like that things change.

Shirley said...

I have a few years before I have to go through this. Reading the above comments, I think that your daughter will find 'her place' on campus, which may be hard for you. I think it is important to always be there for her, but take care of you too. Keep creating, keep blogging, and hold your arms open wide for all the hugs we're sending you. :)

Copper Diem said...

i agree, it is hard in the dorms the first few days/week, but once classes start and the clubs get going, there will be lots of ways to meet friends. But she will always need her mom <3

13 said...

It's tough for both of you. My eldest daughter has just finished 3 years away at university and without a doubt those first couple of weeks are tough. Use skype and fb, but also tell your daughter, even when she's feeling low to go out. Join a few clubs and soon she will be making lots of new friends.

Bobbie said...

And tell her to remember that there are lots of other girls on the hall of her dorm -- even if her roomie isn't there, a quick knock on a couple of doors (maybe with something munchable and delicious in hand) will help her find some buddies to hang out with.